The minute you have a child you open yourself up to possible despair. What happens if your perfectly ‘abled’ child walks out into traffic, gets hit by a car, and loses his arms and a leg? If it were legal, would you ‘abort’ it? Only the most callous of humans would. But here we have a situation where again it is just a matter of timing. The loss of the arms and leg happened in the womb. The grief and despair are real, along with the trials and tribulations that result from the new condition, but the joys that accompany parenthood remain and in some ways are even intensified.